The only point I really wanted to make is that "If anyone reacts negatively to anything you do, it is always because you did something wrong" is an insane standard for human behavior.
I think most everyone agrees with that in general. But when it's phrased "men please remember it isn't how you feel about whether or not an action was appropriate or inappropriate, it is how they feel about it", it's apparently a whole other story.
I was hoping there could be a sane and logical discussion about that, but that seems impossible, at least here and now.
> Please tell me you understand the difference between that and your own potential to have an awkward encounter with a woman due to social anxiety.
I do understand that. I wasn't commenting on the main story at all, only the "If anyone reacts negatively..." quote.
And I assume that when people say "and men please remember...", they really only mean pushy inconsiderate men, and forget that their word will be read by people like me who really need to hear advice about becoming more assertive.
Final nitpick: I'm not so concerned with an awkward encounter. I have a lot of those. My fear is doing something I think is within modern rules of courtship, and be branded a sexual predator. My other fear is being so scared of doing something inappropriate that I never do anything at all and remain forever alone...
I think most everyone agrees with that in general. But when it's phrased "men please remember it isn't how you feel about whether or not an action was appropriate or inappropriate, it is how they feel about it", it's apparently a whole other story.
I was hoping there could be a sane and logical discussion about that, but that seems impossible, at least here and now.
> Please tell me you understand the difference between that and your own potential to have an awkward encounter with a woman due to social anxiety.
I do understand that. I wasn't commenting on the main story at all, only the "If anyone reacts negatively..." quote.
And I assume that when people say "and men please remember...", they really only mean pushy inconsiderate men, and forget that their word will be read by people like me who really need to hear advice about becoming more assertive.
Final nitpick: I'm not so concerned with an awkward encounter. I have a lot of those. My fear is doing something I think is within modern rules of courtship, and be branded a sexual predator. My other fear is being so scared of doing something inappropriate that I never do anything at all and remain forever alone...