So far, there haven't been many "bad and toxic actors". I have met one bad actor among thousands on nostr and I muted him. I heard there was porn in global chat, but my client doesn't even offer global chat.
People don't consider their relays "hostile", but they don't trust them with things they don't need to trust them with. That's not the contradiction you imagine. Relay operators are trusted with things like spam filtering, illegal content removal, etc. One method is that a proof-of-work is required to start writing to a relay, and your public key can be banned quickly for bad behavior, resulting in another long proof-of-work to try again.
Trusting a relay with account management, for example, is horrible. Trust as little as necessary.
> So far, there haven't been many "bad and toxic actors"
It's also obscure enough to not even have a Wikipedia article, the "first & best iOS client for Nostr" wasn't published on GitHub until less than a year ago (but wasn't in the app store until this week according to another comment), the Android client they recommend wasn't on GitHub until last month, and the web client they recommend (Iris) didn't add Nostr support until 2 months ago. Edward Snowden seems to be the most prominent user, and he has 5 followers. I don't know if this is broken, because it seems a ridiculously low number, but that's what it displays.
There's lots of things that work well at small scale, but not so well at scale.
People don't consider their relays "hostile", but they don't trust them with things they don't need to trust them with. That's not the contradiction you imagine. Relay operators are trusted with things like spam filtering, illegal content removal, etc. One method is that a proof-of-work is required to start writing to a relay, and your public key can be banned quickly for bad behavior, resulting in another long proof-of-work to try again.
Trusting a relay with account management, for example, is horrible. Trust as little as necessary.