I used to love writing SQL, but now I'm very much in the same camp as you. I don't ever want to write SQL, I want to write some straightforward code in my language of choice which allows me to interact with the underlying data structures of the DB; every lookup or aggregation I could do in SQL could definitely be written in a much more clear fashion if it was in Rust, JS, or Python.

I'm hoping that as WASM games momentum and WASI becomes an actual thing, some DB is going to pop up that does just that. I'd like to try myself one day.